I have done deep training in the most effective approaches I can find to shift our deeply embedded beliefs and patterns, illuminate gifts and talents, step into purpose and effect sustainable change. These are the modalities that most influence my practice:
Ontological Coaching (Newfield Network)
Ontological Coaching is an extraordinarily powerful methodology for effecting change for individuals, teams and organizations. It is highly effective because it is based on a deeply grounded and practical understanding of language, moods and conversations for behavioral transformation.
Our perceptions and attitudes may be deep seated and out of awareness. As we change our perceptions and attitudes, we often remove significant barriers to learning, and spontaneously develop more effective patterns of communication and behavior.
Our effectiveness in our personal and professional lives, and the quality of our existence, is indelibly shaped by a dynamic relationship between three areas of human existence: language, emotions and body. Coaching in all three areas generates profound learning and deep constructive change.
Hakomi is a gentle and powerful method for accessing and transforming the core images, beliefs, memories and patterns that keep us stuck.
The Hakomi Method of Experiential Psychotherapy was first created in the late 1970′s by the internationally renowned therapist Ron Kurtz.
Integrating scientific, psychological, and spiritual sources, Hakomi has evolved into a highly effective form of psychotherapy. The method draws from general systems theory and modern body-centered therapies including Gestalt, Psychomotor, Feldenkrais, Focusing, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), and the work of Wilhelm Reich and Alexander Lowen. Core concepts of gentleness, nonviolence, compassion, and mindfulness evolved from Buddhism and Taoism.
At its most basic level, Hakomi is the therapeutic expression of a specific set of Principles: Mindfulness, Nonviolence, Unity, Organicity and Mind-Body Integration. These tenets inform every aspect of the work.
Somatic Experiencing, Sensorimotor, DARe and NARM Therapies
SOMATIC EXPERIENCING (SE™) is a potent psychobiological method for resolving trauma symptoms and relieving chronic stress. It is the life’s work of Dr. Peter A. Levine, resulting from his multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, together with over 45 years of successful clinical application. The SE approach releases traumatic shock, and the wounds of emotional and early developmental attachment trauma.
SENSORIMOTOR PSYCHOTHERAPY is a body-oriented therapy that integrates talk and body-centered interventions in the treatment of trauma, attachment, and developmental situations.
It was developed in 1981 by Pat Ogden as a comprehensive method for healing this disconnection between body and mind.
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy® draws from somatic therapies, neuroscience, attachment theory, and cognitive approaches, as well as from the Hakomi Method.
DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repatterning) was created by Diane Poole Heller. Her teachings rests on her firm belief that we are hardwired to heal. Our bodies and our brains store memories of early experiences, creating patterns that deeply affect our relationships and our behaviors in adult life.
This holistic approach, largely based on Somatic and Relational healing techniques, helps us discover the source of our patterns and to apply the right understanding to unwind them, thus releasing new energy to live fully and freely in the moment.
DARe is based on Dr. Peter Levine’s decades of research and hands-on development of Somatic Experiencing®, Diane’s own personal research, and is supported by the most recent theories on attachment by Mary Ainsworth, John Bowlby, Louise Kaplan, Heinz Kohut, Mary Main, Dan Siegel, Marion Solomon, Daniel Stern, Donald W. Winnicott, Jeff Young; as well as couples work theory by Ellyn Bader, John Gottman, Stan Tatkin, and countless others.
In NARM, the NeuroAffective Relational Model, we work simultaneously with the physiology and the psychology of individuals who have experienced developmental trauma, and focus on the interplay between issues of identity and the capacity for connection and regulation.
NARM uses four primary organizing principles. We:
• Support connection and organization
• Explore identity
• Work in present time
• Regulate the nervous system
The work of NARM focuses on five developmental life themes that are essential to our capacity for self-regulation and affect our ability to be present to self and others in the here-and-now: Connection, Attunement, Trust, Autonomy and Love-Sexuality.
To the degree that these five basic needs are met, we experience regulation and connection. We feel safe and trusting of our environment, fluid and connected to ourselves and others. We experience a sense of regulation and expansion. To the degree that these basic needs are not met, we develop survival styles to try to manage the disconnection and dysregulation.
NARM was developed by Dr. Larry Heller. More can be found on his website below:
Circling is an organic, in-the-moment interpersonal process designed to allow a visceral experience of connection and understanding of another person’s world, celebrating who and where they are right now. It’s practicing using our genuine curiosity to better understand and become a connoisseur of another person’s world though present moment awareness while breaking through the assumptions and projections we have about each other.
1. Circling uncovers our “relational blind spots”—the places where we push away the depth of connection and intimacy that’s possible. When we’re aware of our blind spots, we have more choice about how we respond.
2. The experience of “being seen” for who we authentically are is one of the most rewarding experiences we can have as human beings, and Circling teaches us exactly that—how to see and celebrate each person for the unique flavor they bring to the world.
Immunity to Change (ITC)
The mind, like the body, has its own immune system. Dr. Robert Kegan and Dr. Lisa Lahey spent 10 years developing and researching an award-winning coaching method based on their breakthrough discovery of a hidden dynamic called the “immunity to change”. Their research found that – despite thoughtful plans and and heartfelt intentions – some changes are simply hard to make. It’s as if we have one foot on the gas pedal and a larger one on the brake.
Their research suggests that “lack of discipline,” “insufficient motivation, “the inability to reverse old habits,” are all inadequate explanations for why individuals, teams and organizations don’t change.
They found that people’s failure to enact visible goals is often due to competing commitments. For example, a man who must take anti-cholesterol medicine may unconsciously be more committed to not taking the medicine than to taking it. By not taking the medicine, he can avoid feeling old.
The Immunity to Change (ITC) methodology is designed to bring this internal unconscious resistance to change to light, so that people can attain deeply sought changes.
NLP (NLP Marin)
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a wonderfully rich mix of perspectives and perceptual and behavioral skills and tools for personal development and enhanced interactions with others.
NLP is about the ability to discover, understand, and change our own and others’ processes of decision-making, communication, motivation, and learning—simply, elegantly, effectively.
NLP is a model for understanding and working with human behavior. NLP has the ability to get direct access to our internal maps of reality (how we have our life experience represented in our minds) and to shift them, to re-assemble the connections, to update them, and to correct mistaken representations, so that our life experience reflects more of what we want—personally, in our relationships, and on the job.
NLP’s ultimate objective is to contribute to increased choice leading to more fulfilling lives. Put another way, NLP’s ultimate objective is to assist you to change your mind about what is possible for you.
Clean Language is a technique used in coaching and psychotherapy. Clean Language helps clients to discover and develop symbols and metaphors without being influenced by the phrasing of a question.
Clean Language was developed by New Zealander David Grove in the 1980s as a result of his work on clinical methods for resolving clients’ traumatic memories. “He realized that many clients naturally described their symptoms in metaphor, and found that when he enquired about these using their exact words, their perception of the trauma began to change.”
Clean Language also is the basis of symbolic modeling, a stand-alone method and process for psychotherapy and coaching, which was developed by NLP leaders James Lawley and Penny Tompkins.
Clean Language questions are designed to reduce to a minimum any influence from the coach’s ‘map of the world’ via his or her metaphors, interpretations or unwarranted assumptions. By cleansing the coach’s “maps” — metaphors, assumptions,paradigms or sensations— clients gain increased awareness of their own metaphorical representation of experience.
Core Transformation meets the deepest strivings of our times: to heal ourselves and develop as human beings – emotionally, physically, and spiritually. This simple 10-step process offers a graceful way to change unwanted thoughts, feelings, and habits, and to achieve goals that you thought were unattainable.
Specific changes attributed to the Core Transformation process include:
- Changing problem emotions and behaviors (i.e. anger, self-consciousness, fear)
- Finding fulfilling work
- Improving relationships
- Healing addictions
- Overcoming depression and anxiety
- Losing weight
- Creating an overall sense of inner peace, wholeness and well-being
Imagine your most difficult problems actually having a positive aspect, something through which to learn, grow, and transform. Core Transformation gently guides you in discovering those positive intentions, leading to an experience of understanding, where awareness and change occur naturally.
The practice Dynamic Stillness has had a profound influence on my work and everyday life. It helps me to develop a felt sense of the nervous system and impulses that arise. My mentors are Charles Ridley, author of STILLNESS: Biodynamic Cranial Practice and the Evolution of Consciousness and Giorgia Milne, who — like Charles — brings a rare quality of presence that is heart felt, spirit filled and deeply intelligent.
Dynamic Stillness evolves out of Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy. It is an evolutionary model, not a treatment model. Like with Hakomi and Somatic Experiencing, we trust the deep wisdom within the human body to know exactly what it needs to evolve. “Treatment happens” on multiple levels as part of an evolutionary impulse or intelligence that is within all of us. We abide at the threshold of mystery and the question: “What is Body?”
In this practice, primary respiration (which emanates from the heart field), is the foundation for our perceptual integrity, and it is the power that propels our consciousness. Rather than applying ‘blind force’ from without, we abide in the natural healing and growth that wants to happen when (for me) our egoic impulses to heal, change, fix and modify arise, soften and naturally pass.
Dynamic Stillness offers a non-medical, non-efferent biodynamic approach to touch that is free of mechanical/functional overlay. Non-medical and non-efferent mean sessions are not referenced to a symptom-diagnosis-treatment paradigm, or ‘doing to’ a client in any way. In other words, we let go of assumptions and ideas about what wants to happen. When impulses arise, we allow them to soften and relax as we listen for deeper guidance.
Training with Charles and Giorgia supports the inner development of the practitioner to let the motion of primary respiration direct the sequence of the session. For the practitioner this means resting in oneself with freed attention, to be with sensations as they naturally arise, and to trust the greater wisdom at play.
This practice assumes that wisdom and compassion are available to us all. When the nervous system relaxes, we can sense what is ever-present. In other words, we cultivate the stillness from which Life naturally guides us.
Map of Life: Mapping your life’s history
The Map of Life is an individual process of eight to ten meetings during which you will have the opportunity to “start with a clean slate.” During this journey, you will deeply study your life, creating a map that enables you to have revelations and get a more clear view of negative repetitions. You begin to identify the root of what we call problems, which, in truth, are learning opportunities. Through the Map of Life, you will discover that everything that happens has a reason. Beneath every struggle is a deep intelligence that wants expression.